Finding your niche in life feels like nothing else. For me, I wasted a lot of years beating myself up for being different from others, while missing out on the celebration of who I was created to be.
I started down the shame trail early on, I must have been four or five the first time I remember feeling it. A little girl on a school bus, gazing out the window, lost in my own thoughts, when someone interrupted.
“I don’t like your hair.” A chorus of laughter from a cheering crowd rooted on the mean girl, who was several years my senior.
“You’re too skinny, and you’re ugly too.” She added an extra punch.
I slithered closer to the window glass, wishing I could disappear into the rolling green hills, blurring as we passed them. I too wanted to blur past this moment. Instead, I endured the girl’s taunts all the way to school, listening to their echoes as I stumbled down the steps in my rush to get off the bus. That made my persecutors laugh even harder.
As I matured, I tried to bury the shame that began on that day. But each new failure, disappointment, and embarrassing tongue-lashing added new torment. Like magma in a volcano, those perceptions of myself built and grew, bubbling and churning inside the hidden depths of my soul. Often, making me wish I’d never been born. Until…
Sadly, it took a dramatic event for me to face my persecutors, the one who shouted at me the most was myself. Every time I felt less than, I’d replay the voices from my past who reminded me of my flaws, and then I’d add a few bonus jabs for good measure.
My wake-up call came in a Denver, Colorado hospital, a few days after I donated a kidney to my sister. The surgery went fine, but when they removed the epidural, and put me on Dilaudid, a morphine derivative, I had a severe allergic reaction. It almost killed me — literally. (If you want to read the story in detail, Chapter 10: Scars of Love in my book, Getting Through What You Can’t Get Over, recounts it.)
- The lie that says there’s something wrong with how you’re made — that you aren’t good enough.
- The lie that says others can define who you are.
- The lie that says you can’t move past your past.
- The lie that says you don’t matter.
Today, as a result of coming through much adversity, I have found my niche — my purpose. I’m the Fresh Faith gal. Oddly, it’s the positive result of my past pain. Because of what I’ve endured, and the taunting I received, I have a depth of compassion and empathy not possible otherwise. I’m walking proof that it’s never too late to make a fresh start with fresh faith.
- God made you with special gifts and talents, mixed with unique experiences and background. No one else has this exact recipe, which means no one else can make your exact impact.
- Only you and God know precisely who you are, no one else is qualified to define you.
- Your past need not determine your future. It will influence it, but you can determine to make it a positive result.
- You are made on purpose, with purpose, to fulfill a purpose.
Please allow me to challenge you with a question. Will you stop believing the lies and grip the promises? Don’t be ashamed, live fully in the niche you were created for — there’s a reason you exist.
Anita Fresh Faith
Anita is also an award-winning author. Her titles include Readers’ Favorite and Golden Scroll Finalist, plus Amazon best seller: Getting Through What You Can’t Get Over, Barbour Publishing, First Hired, Last Fired — How to Become Irreplaceable in Any Job Market, Leafwood Publishing, Death Defied-Life Defined: A Miracle Man’s Memoir, and is a contributor to global book phenomenon, The Change: Insights Into Self Empowerment Book #4. Her books are available at major and independent bookstores, Amazon, plus several online retailers.
Anita fulfills her mission to help 21st century women and men make fresh starts with fresh faith by sharing what she’s learned through experience, interviews, and research. Anita shares hope and encouragement from the page and on the stage.
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