What makes some people more prone to receive good things? Were they born with a secret for positive metamorphosis that the rest of us don’t know about? And why are others subject to one bad outcome after another?
The last time we met, I shared the story of Angie. Without realizing it, she sabotaged herself by acting in unthinking ways. Her disregard for the thoughts and feelings of others shone through her attempts to mask them. She rallied sympathizers so she could feel better about herself, but ultimately, she was left alone to face her consequences. Her earlier choices created a predictable outcome, if she’d paid attention. She lost her job.
Sandy chose differently.
- Sandy structured her habits, so she got a full night’s sleep regularly.
- She made smart and healthy food choices.
- Sandy drank water, versus soda, excess amounts of coffee, tea, energy drinks, or sugary fruit juices.
- She exercised at least four to five days a week, to maintain a stronger, healthier, more vibrant body.
- Where Angie focused on self, Sandy demonstrated consideration for those around her. She used good manners when interacting with others, speaking words like, “Excuse me, thank you, I appreciate, it’s my pleasure, may I help you?”
- Sandy pledged honesty. She would not lie to herself or others, making sure falsehoods didn’t cloud her choices.
- She created healthy emotional boundaries, and in a gentle, yet firm way, stood up for her pre-determined decisions.
- Sandy didn’t increase her problems by rushing to gather emotional support for herself when under pressure. Instead, she privately, and very carefully, researched, analyzed, and measured to make sure she was part of solving problems.
- Sandy set herself up to succeed by resolving to be productive in whatever commitments she made. Whether at work, at home, at church, or anywhere else, she vowed to keep her promises, and acted from that intrinsic motivator.
When we sow positive choices of conduct, millennia of measurable research proves positive consequences will follow. And the goodness multiplies. When you plant a kernel, stalks grow tall, and hundreds of new kernels are produced. Choices are our kernels, and many consequences grow on the stalk.
If we want to overcome ineffectiveness, we would do well to remember it’s the little things we plant, that determine what will grow.
Anita Fresh Faith
Have you changed any of your choices, and experienced better outcomes?
2 Peter 1:8 (NIV)
For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business and Inspirational Coach, Certified Personality Trainer, Productivity Expert, Certified Training Facilitator, Communications Specialist, national speaker, and author of the soon-to-be released book, First Hired, Last Fired — How to Become Irreplaceable in Any Job Market.
She’s a partner in The Zenith Zone, a business coaching firm. Member of the Christian Writer’s Guild, Toastmasters, a client of WordServe Literary Group, graduate of CLASSeminars for Leaders, Speakers, and Authors, a co-founder of The StoryWriting Studio, and speaker on circuit for Stonecroft International Ministries.
Anita’s passionate about business with integrity, healthy relationships, and issues of identity. She travels the country teaching others from her personal experiences and research. She believes it’s never too late for a fresh start with fresh faith. Anita lives in Missouri with her husband Ricky.