How did things get this bad?
Dark clouds often swirl over our relationships with co-workers, family members, friends, even the clerk behind the check-out counter. The atom at the nucleus of most of our fights is nearly invisible. It hides just below the surface while we are engrossed in the energy of emotions.
This powerful force is called misunderstanding.
Much time is wasted while we fume. We toss and turn through the night, replaying conversations, building our case, and justifying our reasons for being angry. Then we further the problem by participating in a stand-off.
A lack of discussion keeps us on a stormy track.
Most conflicts exist because people imagine someone else is thinking, saying, or doing something against them.
But 90% of what we fear, or assume for that matter, isn’t true.
So next time you are upset because someone else slighted you, try asking if what you think they mean is indeed fact. Take courage and discuss how the original conflict started. Did you misunderstand the other party? Did they misunderstand you?
Communication isn’t a cliche’, it’s a powerful way to correct problems.
Talk things out — you might be surprised, and salvage a relationship.
Have you ever discovered a situation wasn’t nearly as bad as you thought after talking with the other person?