“There are things in life we’ll never get over, but we can get through, to discover how pain-filled people can laugh yet again.”
Getting Through What You Can’t Get Over author interview questions used for media outlets:
1. In your book, Getting Through What You Can’t Get Over, you talk about your experience with depression, and how a miraculous meeting with a former prisoner of war from Auschwitz changed your life. Can you briefly describe what that story?
2. You also mention well meaning people who say things like, “Just pull yourself up by the bootstraps.” “Think happy thoughts.” Or “You just need to get over it and move on.” But you believe these statements actually make things worse for a hurting person. How should we respond to a wounded soul?
3. PTSD in the everyday person is part of the focus in your book. You tell true stories of everything from financial issues, to abuse, to betrayal, to death. Can you describe post trauma stress and tell people why it’s important for us to be aware of it?
4. In Getting Through What You Can’t Get Over, you remind us that no one wants to feel bad, we don’t want to live in misery, you say we’d rather experience happiness than receive negative attention. Why is this truth important for a hurting person to hear?
6. In the final chapter of Getting Through What You Can’t Get Over, you offer a 12 Step map that you use to help guide you through dark valleys and lead you to a place of hope and healing light. A place where you say, “Pain-filled people may laugh yet again.” Can you share one or two insights from that?
7. You offer a unique perspective about people who say they believe in God — you actually have a challenge question in response to those who say it. Can you tell us about that?
Excerpts: Chapter One ~ Valley Walker
“When I met her, I was in the blackest hole I’d ever experienced. I cowered in a deep pit of depression and anxiety spawned by betrayal.The pain was raw and unquenchable. Each day I tried to scale the walls and scramble into some light, but with every attempt I slid back down the slimy slopes of the well and crumpled into the darkness of my despair.”
“Edie told me details I’d never read or heard about of atrocities in the Nazi prison camps—starvation, humiliation, cannibalism, emotional torture, mental games, physical maiming, and soul stripping. There was no part of the human existence left untouched by the cruel men and women who meted out the twisted desires of the SS.”
“I marveled at the confidence and peace echoing beneath her words. I couldn’t imagine surviving such loss and yet gaining such deep hope.”
“While we stood outside the terminal, she laid her hands on my cheeks as if she were touching fragile butterfly wings. “There is a wounded little girl inside of you who needs a mother. You mother her.” And then she hugged me close in a final good-bye.”