We offer you a place to escape so you can be someone else for the day. I read this tagline in a book I just finished, and was struck by the business owner’s perspective on the offer. “Many people wish they could become someone other than who they are. The attraction to our place is the chance to do just that.”
Few of us can say one or more of these thoughts haven’t crossed our minds — I wish I had his money. I’d be happy if I was married to her husband. Why can’t I be the one in that position at work? If I had their house life would be great.
But greener grass is often the result of unseen fertilizer below the surface. We don’t know how hard someone worked to earn the money they have. We aren’t privy to the wrestling matches waged to ensure a relationship survives and thrives. We don’t know what behind-the-scenes study, dedication to duty, or sacrifice of time have placed someone in line for promotion. And we have no idea what the mortgage, tax, and insurance costs are for the home we admire.
What is it about stepping into a life established by someone else that attracts us?
- Are we hoping to avoid the hard work necessary to reap rewards?
- Do we focus on our negatives more than our blessings?
- Is there unresolved grief or other pain we are trying to avoid?
- Are we hoping that another situation or person will save us from our problems?
- Do we worry we made a mistake in some of our past choices?
- Do we secretly believe God or other people are conspiring against us, and think others aren’t hindered by such challenges?
Exodus 20:17 (NIV)
“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.”
Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Coach, Certified Personality Trainer, Productivity Specialist, Certified Team Training Facilitator, Marketing Specialist, national speaker, and author. She lives in Missouri with her husband Ricky.
She’s passionate about business with integrity, healthy relationships, and issues of identity. She travels the country teaching others from her personal experiences and research.